Single as an Option Never a [default] Option :)

There is a huge difference between both terms option and default option .. and you can easily Google them ;) … But I know some of you will not bother searching .. so here’s the definition:

[An option]: the act of choosing or selecting.

[A default option]: an option that is selected automatically unless an alternative is specified.

I guess the difference is pretty clear .. but the question is why do some people mix both terms ? … Why do they insist to define Single as a default option and refuses the option of single being merely an option ???!!!

They say singles are that species that’s miserable or dissociable. It’s like "oh poor single" …. As if it’s an insult or something. I just hate the way people generalize. Being single is divided into categories. Single is not just a word, it’s a world. I can’t deny that there is a Single category that is defined as a default option. But there is also that girl who chooses her career over her emotional life. There is that guy who had much experience from his In a relationship-friends that he preferred the title single over ex-boyfriend. Also there maybe a girl that tried how is it like to have a broken heart, So she decided to have a break from breaking and to experience being single for a while …… and Etc.

And that brings Us to a conclusion, which is some people choose to be single, not because there is no other option, but because it is their option. Not because they have to, it’s because they want to.

A huge problem that I see always affecting singles, is the way people deal with them when they justify themselves being single by saying it’s their own decision and their own desire. The expected answers are either:

"Poor girl, you’re convincing yourself that you want to be single .. And that’s not true"

"I pity you boy, you can’t admit it you’re still single because you’re not attractive"

Or The other category of people whom their answers don’t at all express their thoughts:

They answer: "Oh I know that it’s your decision girl" .. But in fact they think: "Poor girl, she’s convincing herself that she wants to be single"

They answer: "Oh boy I know it’s what you want" .. Actually They Think: "I pity the guy, he can’t admit it he’s single because he’s not attractive"

You see people .. what I want to say is: Never judge only for the sake of Judgment. It’s cruel and unfair.

Maybe I’m waiting for the person who deserves me. I’m not obliged to accept a person just to delete the single word from my world and add the in a relationship instead. It’s not a charge, I don’t have to be exonerated.

I always believed that being in a relationship is so easy to be done. Every guy and every girl tend to be so. Not because they need to feel safe … to feel loved .. or to be taken care of … No, not at all. Actually,  most of them get in a relation for the sake of being in a relation. Most of them are just wannabes. Actually, the term "real relation" is slowly turning to "fake" for the sake of avoiding the status "single".

And last but not least it takes a person with a will and a strong character to choose to be single .. needs an understanding person to accept people’s ignorance and stupid habits. And finally it needs a faithful one to believe that in god’s timing the status Single will change to be In a [perfect] relationship. <3

…… And always remember "Not all singles are available and not all taken are in love." ;)