When a dream turns into a night mare O_o

Since birth, the only sentence told to a girl is " 3o2bal ma nshofek 3aroosa". These four words precipitate in a girl’s subconscious while growing up, and through every phase of her life. She spent not less than ¾ of her time dreaming of the perfect proposal and the amazing wedding .. and most important “ fostan el-fara7 “ . 

As years pass, she meets dozens of guys … at school, at work, in the streets … almost everywhere .. and that dream of hers is always deep in her heart & never leaves. She thinks of every guy she meets, and wonders if he would be that tool she would use to make her dream come true .. or precisely the dream of the whole family.

Eventually and most probably, she falls in Love with that guy she met by coincidence … the man who makes her heart beat faster.. the one that can change her mood with a single smile .. he may not be as she imagined … might not be “ fata a7lam.ha “ …
but “ when love knocks, our hearts don’t take permission to open “

Only then she starts to think of her dreams as tiny and unnecessary. Her thoughts become different and hesitated. But what’s important is that she found herself willing to give up on her dreams just to live with that person. 

But most likely problems occur. Either he is not capable of engagement or marriage … or there is a huge difference in age …. Might also be that he feels like his capabilities aren’t enough to offer her the same social level she needs … and many others.

That’s when every thing turns upside down. A door bell or a phone call from a friend of your parents and BAM …. Your mother tells you another famous sentence " Galek 3arees "   0_o … 

The supposed action of yours … or the one people expect you to do .. is jumping out of joy and screaming out loud * t2reban mn kotr ma beye7sal fel aflam el-nas sada2t :S:S * … but actually that very moment .. is when your dream turns into a night mare. You suddenly discover that the dream you’ve always thought of .. the proposal, the wedding wl fostan :D …. Means nothing without that special person. You find out that your dream could possibly turn into a night mare in a fraction of a second.

So a3adt m3 nafsy w fakart fe the reasons why on earth a dream highly desired could turn into a night mare that’s better avoided. !!!!!! … Well after long time thinking, I discovered that the problem was that dreams were wrongly planned :S …. They were all about the scene without the human being himself . The girl dreams of the wedding with every ribbon wrapped around a chair .. the proposal with every word being said … and the gown with every single piece of fabric. She thought of every small tiny detail … and forgot one thing … “ el-3arees “!! .. 

We were raised to think that we should get married … FULLSTOP. 

But we forgot what marriage is really about ? … Marriage is about a home with walls of love and a base of friendship. It’s about acceptance and care. Marriage is a long-life trip travelled by two people together side by side. It’s not a "must-reach" purpose …. It’s a "wish-to-live" Life. 

My Advice; Don’t RUSH.

Don’t think about what people say.. Don’t accept the first one proposed only because you feel like you should get married. You should wait for the one who will love you, respect you and care for you. You don’t have to turn the dream of the people around you, not that of yours, into reality. Wait for the person God created to be your other half .. don’t run after guys out of fear en el-2atr yefotek aw en el-3rsan ye5laso. God made you valuable … Never turn cheap.

Paint your own Dream with a brush of your own ♥ ... and make sure it won't ever turn out to be ... A Nightmare ;)

In the End .. 

Remember en kollo naseeb :)

Unspoken Words

.... Why is it that our everyday's conversations are extremely simple & easy ... That words simply flow out of our mouths like a river with no dams ... But when it comes to the only person we love ... We really care about ... Or even like ... We find it impossible to admit those feelings ... We figure out words disobey us .. As if our remote control is programmed to press mute whenever we need higher volume to scream out loud .. We CARE ... We LIKE ... We LOVE :)(:

One Day (",)

... You know sometimes bad things happen to us ... Like moving to a new town ... Going to a new school ... Getting in a college you never liked ... Meeting people who disappoint you .. But remember all these things that now you just hate ... One day you will be grateful for ... That even you will want to thank every minute spent to get you closer to that day ... When everything just fits ... When you meet the perfect person .... That person who makes you a whole ... Who just happens to be your soul mate .. ==> So just back off and let your fate do his job ;)) 

A second Chance

Sometimes we deeply wish for a second chance to fix everything .. or to change decisions we thought for a lifetime were wrong and disastrous .. or maybe to try the other path hoping that it would be better than the one we previously took .. But when you think about it for a second .. you will discover the whole thing out .. It's that if you got the opportunity to have a second chance in your life .. You won't fix anything ... Will never change a single decision .. You may even take the same exact path you've taken before ... Merely because at the time ... all the decisions, the choices and the paths you took were exactly what you really wanted .. It was meant for you .. and your name was on it .. So try to deal with your choices instead of blaming your self for  them .. Try to see the good things that made you chose them from the very beginning .. Only by then .. you are going to be free from whatever pulling you to the past and start focusing on the future.

Single as an Option Never a [default] Option :)

There is a huge difference between both terms option and default option .. and you can easily Google them ;) … But I know some of you will not bother searching .. so here’s the definition:

[An option]: the act of choosing or selecting.

[A default option]: an option that is selected automatically unless an alternative is specified.

I guess the difference is pretty clear .. but the question is why do some people mix both terms ? … Why do they insist to define Single as a default option and refuses the option of single being merely an option ???!!!

They say singles are that species that’s miserable or dissociable. It’s like "oh poor single" …. As if it’s an insult or something. I just hate the way people generalize. Being single is divided into categories. Single is not just a word, it’s a world. I can’t deny that there is a Single category that is defined as a default option. But there is also that girl who chooses her career over her emotional life. There is that guy who had much experience from his In a relationship-friends that he preferred the title single over ex-boyfriend. Also there maybe a girl that tried how is it like to have a broken heart, So she decided to have a break from breaking and to experience being single for a while …… and Etc.

And that brings Us to a conclusion, which is some people choose to be single, not because there is no other option, but because it is their option. Not because they have to, it’s because they want to.

A huge problem that I see always affecting singles, is the way people deal with them when they justify themselves being single by saying it’s their own decision and their own desire. The expected answers are either:

"Poor girl, you’re convincing yourself that you want to be single .. And that’s not true"

"I pity you boy, you can’t admit it you’re still single because you’re not attractive"

Or The other category of people whom their answers don’t at all express their thoughts:

They answer: "Oh I know that it’s your decision girl" .. But in fact they think: "Poor girl, she’s convincing herself that she wants to be single"

They answer: "Oh boy I know it’s what you want" .. Actually They Think: "I pity the guy, he can’t admit it he’s single because he’s not attractive"

You see people .. what I want to say is: Never judge only for the sake of Judgment. It’s cruel and unfair.

Maybe I’m waiting for the person who deserves me. I’m not obliged to accept a person just to delete the single word from my world and add the in a relationship instead. It’s not a charge, I don’t have to be exonerated.

I always believed that being in a relationship is so easy to be done. Every guy and every girl tend to be so. Not because they need to feel safe … to feel loved .. or to be taken care of … No, not at all. Actually,  most of them get in a relation for the sake of being in a relation. Most of them are just wannabes. Actually, the term "real relation" is slowly turning to "fake" for the sake of avoiding the status "single".

And last but not least it takes a person with a will and a strong character to choose to be single .. needs an understanding person to accept people’s ignorance and stupid habits. And finally it needs a faithful one to believe that in god’s timing the status Single will change to be In a [perfect] relationship. <3

…… And always remember "Not all singles are available and not all taken are in love." ;)

What about the Dark side & the Empty half ?!

Throughout your life, whenever you are down or sad of a certain problem, people around you will try to comfort you with some words. Two of the most famous words said in these situations are:

1- Look at the bright side!

2- See the glass half full!

Well I assure you that these two sentences won’t ever be useful when you don’t even see the glass!! ….

But to be honest they both let me think about an unexplainable issue!? … You know sometimes, when people are in difficulties … they manage to get through them... and get themselves out even much stronger... & you know what?? They do so without these commonly thought magical words.

Sometimes you do need to look at the dark side in order to reach the bright one. Most often you have to know that the glass is empty, and begin to fill it.

If we started thinking, we will find out that most of the things we use now were discovered not because the whoever did it felt that life is pinky and perfect, in the contrary, it’s because he knew things were missing, he saw the dark side and decided to paint it bright.

So whenever you have a problem at work, issues at home or even just some little difficulties with your life, have a look at the bright side but never ignore the dark one.

The "Half Full" is there to let you know God is always there by your side and that the glass will never be fully empty, on the other hand, the "Half empty" is what brings out the strength in you, it’s what makes you challenge yourself that every difficulty you are facing is going to be defeated.

" B+ "… Consider both the dark and the bright are important together to complete the whole picture. If you only focused on one side, you’re going to miss beauty in the painting. Looking too much at the bright will make you a negative person who doesn’t develop and just stand Handicapped in his place, while focusing too much at the empty half will leave you stressed, nervous and pessimistic.

Remember God created the world with good moments and bad ones & God knows we can perfectly handle both ♥

So next time when someone asks you to stop seeing the Glass as half empty?

Tell them “What empty half you are talking about?

I enjoyed drinking the full half while thanking god for it, and now I’m starting to refill the glass, making sure I would reach the maximum without forgetting to intentionally leave part of the glass empty to always be my starting point to another REFILL” ;))