When a dream turns into a night mare O_o

Since birth, the only sentence told to a girl is " 3o2bal ma nshofek 3aroosa". These four words precipitate in a girl’s subconscious while growing up, and through every phase of her life. She spent not less than ¾ of her time dreaming of the perfect proposal and the amazing wedding .. and most important “ fostan el-fara7 “ . 

As years pass, she meets dozens of guys … at school, at work, in the streets … almost everywhere .. and that dream of hers is always deep in her heart & never leaves. She thinks of every guy she meets, and wonders if he would be that tool she would use to make her dream come true .. or precisely the dream of the whole family.

Eventually and most probably, she falls in Love with that guy she met by coincidence … the man who makes her heart beat faster.. the one that can change her mood with a single smile .. he may not be as she imagined … might not be “ fata a7lam.ha “ …
but “ when love knocks, our hearts don’t take permission to open “

Only then she starts to think of her dreams as tiny and unnecessary. Her thoughts become different and hesitated. But what’s important is that she found herself willing to give up on her dreams just to live with that person. 

But most likely problems occur. Either he is not capable of engagement or marriage … or there is a huge difference in age …. Might also be that he feels like his capabilities aren’t enough to offer her the same social level she needs … and many others.

That’s when every thing turns upside down. A door bell or a phone call from a friend of your parents and BAM …. Your mother tells you another famous sentence " Galek 3arees "   0_o … 

The supposed action of yours … or the one people expect you to do .. is jumping out of joy and screaming out loud * t2reban mn kotr ma beye7sal fel aflam el-nas sada2t :S:S * … but actually that very moment .. is when your dream turns into a night mare. You suddenly discover that the dream you’ve always thought of .. the proposal, the wedding wl fostan :D …. Means nothing without that special person. You find out that your dream could possibly turn into a night mare in a fraction of a second.

So a3adt m3 nafsy w fakart fe the reasons why on earth a dream highly desired could turn into a night mare that’s better avoided. !!!!!! … Well after long time thinking, I discovered that the problem was that dreams were wrongly planned :S …. They were all about the scene without the human being himself . The girl dreams of the wedding with every ribbon wrapped around a chair .. the proposal with every word being said … and the gown with every single piece of fabric. She thought of every small tiny detail … and forgot one thing … “ el-3arees “!! .. 

We were raised to think that we should get married … FULLSTOP. 

But we forgot what marriage is really about ? … Marriage is about a home with walls of love and a base of friendship. It’s about acceptance and care. Marriage is a long-life trip travelled by two people together side by side. It’s not a "must-reach" purpose …. It’s a "wish-to-live" Life. 

My Advice; Don’t RUSH.

Don’t think about what people say.. Don’t accept the first one proposed only because you feel like you should get married. You should wait for the one who will love you, respect you and care for you. You don’t have to turn the dream of the people around you, not that of yours, into reality. Wait for the person God created to be your other half .. don’t run after guys out of fear en el-2atr yefotek aw en el-3rsan ye5laso. God made you valuable … Never turn cheap.

Paint your own Dream with a brush of your own ♥ ... and make sure it won't ever turn out to be ... A Nightmare ;)

In the End .. 

Remember en kollo naseeb :)